We had adopted our third daughter, Gracie from China a year and a half earlier and had decided to adopt again. As soon as I saw this picture, I just fell in love with Kai’s little face.
If you look closely, you may notice his feet turn inwards, a lot.
Kai had two club feet and club hands. We thought that we could handle that, – our daughter Gracie had been born with a club foot and we went through surgery and rehabilitation just fine.
But the medical paperwork from the orphanage also said that Kai had a dislocated hip…he was born that way.
The news we heard from the doctor was not good. The doctor suspected that Kai had a condition known as arthrogryposis, which can be caused when the birth mother’s womb is too small for the developing baby. Hence, the club feet and hands and dislocated hip.
The doctor told us that Kai would need multiple surgeries with lengthy hospital stays. We were torn up by this news. We were set to receive the papers from the adoption agency the next day to sign to formally agree to adopt him. After a lot of prayer and talking to our daughters about what Kai would have to go through and what we would all have to do to help him, our entire family decided to go forward.
Our whole family traveled to China in January 2005 to go and get Kai. We were so excited to meet him. But, he was not sure about us…we definitely did not look Chinese and he was missing his foster mother.
It only took about one day for Kai to fit into our family and he was absolutely inseparable from his new dad.
Kai recovered from that surgery quite well but will have to wear AFO’s (braces on his feet and lower legs), for the rest of his life. He walks and runs with a limp. Kai cannot run as fast as his classmates and is beginning to notice that. He always wears long pants now, because he doesn’t like it when people stare at his braces.
Over Christmas, I was reading a book to him about a little lamb that had a limp, but was very special, just like him. Kai was surprised that he had a limp….he didn’t know that. I thought that he did. But, it didn’t seem to bother him after he found out.
A couple of months ago, we received the news that Kai needs another hip surgery. We were dismayed at the news, although we knew that Kai would probably require additional surgeries during his life. But, he is just such a normal little boy that it is so easy to forget that he even has special needs.
He will be confined to a wheelchair again for 6 – 8 weeks. Since Kai cannot put any weight on his hip we have to take care of most of his basic needs during that time and do a lot of lifting and carrying.
Today is Kai’s eight birthday, and tomorrow he will be in surgery. But for today, we celebrate…
I know that Kai will meet this challenge as well and continue to display the resilience that continues to amaze me. Before we know it, he will be back to wrestling, running, riding his bike and scooter.
I would appreciate your prayers and thank you for letting me share about my son. I promise I will soon be back rambling about my desert garden as well as other gardens I encounter 🙂