Some daughter-in-law’s don’t have much in common with their father-in-law.
In my case, when I married my husband 25 years ago, I wasn’t sure if I would have any shared interests with my father-in-law…..he was a dentist (I was deathly afraid of dentists), he ran 3 miles a day (I got a ‘stitch’ in my side if I tried running to the corner), he was very orderly and meticulous (I am neither of those things) and he was soft spoken (while I can be a bit loud).
I knew he loved me and I him, but sometimes conversation would lag because besides the kids and family, there wasn’t much else to talk about.
That is until I started to become interested in plants and landscaping. You see, my father-in-law always had well-designed landscapes filled with beautiful plants. As I decided to pursue a degree in Urban Horticulture, he was very supportive.
Urban Horticulture, Goodding’s Verbena (Glandularia gooddingi)
Even better, we now had lots to talk about. Our visits would often include visits into each others garden.
I would show him my newest plant acquisition and he would in turn, ask me questions about a few of his plant problems.
Red Yucca (Hesperaloe parviflora)
A few years later, he and my mother-in-law made the trip up to my newest job location, took me out to lunch and asked me to show them around the landscape areas I was in charge of.
Blackfoot Daisy (Melampodium leucanthum)
When he retired, he asked me to design the landscape for their new home. He had some ideas of what he wanted and then let me go at it.
Damianita (Chrysactinia mexicana)
I enjoyed working closely with him, in coming up with a design and the plants that he liked.
Purple Prickly Pear (Opuntia violaceae)
While I enjoyed visiting and seeing his landscape mature, I didn’t always agree with the way he like to prune his shrubs…
His style gardening was orderly and meticulous, like he was.
We would sometimes tease each other because our styles were vastly different.
‘Torch Glow’ Bougainvillea
But no matter our landscaping styles, we still enjoyed going out into the garden together.
Last October, my father-in-law was diagnosed with ALS (Lou Gehrig’s disease).
Phoenix Bird-of-Paradise (Caesalpinia pulcherrima ‘Phoenix’)
In a very short time, he was robbed of the ability to speak, swallow, eat and the use of his hands.
Now, unable to work in his garden himself, he had to rely on others.
I considered it a privilege to help him where I could.
‘Rio Bravo’ Sage (Leucophyllum langmaniae ‘Rio Bravo’)
He endured this horrible disease with dignity, a sense of humor and through his faith.
Mexican Fence Post (Pachycereus marginatus)
This past Saturday, after 2 weeks in hospice care, he passed away.
We were all blessed to be by his side as he took his last, labored breath.
One of the last things he wrote was,
“My race is almost over.”
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I think it will be awhile before I can step into his garden without shedding tears.
I will miss sharing our love for plants together…..
Tour of Sustainable Southwestern Landscapes: Part 1
Goodbyes, A Double Celebration and Upcoming Arrival….
az plant lady familyI must admit that this month has been very eventful.
We said goodbye to my father-in-law….
Who waged a courageous battle with ALS (Lou Gehrig’s Disease), which took his life 11 months after he was diagnosed.
A week later, it was time to celebrate a huge milestone in two lives…..
Dean loved his first taste of cake.
My twin nephews turned 1 year old.
Danny liked the frosting of his Cookie Monster cupcake the best.
We celebrated their birthday at my house and it was so fun to see the boys enjoy their cupcakes and play with their gifts.
The very next day, it was time to celebrate my daughter and son-in-law’s baby shower.
But beforehand, I needed to finish the baby sweater I had been working on.
This was my first sweater that I made. Overall, I think it turned out well, but I learned a very important lesson when knitting a pattern.
*Don’t knit when you are stressed or distracted.*
I had started the sweater in August and brought it with me to the hospital when my father-in-law was hospitalized. I also took it with me when he was transferred to hospice. As a result, I started the sweater 4 separate times due to simple mistakes.
So, I learned to work on it at home and got the buttons sewed on the night before the baby shower 🙂
Now that the sweater was finished, I was ready to enjoy the baby shower, which was being held at Double S Farms where my mother, sister and her family reside.
We all enjoyed a delicious brunch.
Just a few of the gifts waiting to be opened. (Notice my mother’s cheese grater collection?)
Some of the men spent time outdoors discussing who knows what? (From left to right, the future grandfather, my brother-in-law, my cousin and my husband-the other future grandfather.)
That’s me on the left with my daughter. It seems like yesterday, when I was expecting her 🙂
The best part…..opening gifts! My nephew, Finley is on hand to offer any help opening presents if they need him 😉
Such a cute quilt made by the grandmother (the other one 🙂
She loved the sweater! I must admit that I need a break from knitting for awhile 😉
I couldn’t resist taking this picture…. It may just pop up in the future when he is older and easily embarrassed 😉
Favors for guests. Guess what they are?
Thank you so much for letting me share with you our eventful September.
It is a bit overwhelming to suffer grief and joy in such a small period of time. But they are both part of life. I must admit that I prefer the joyful periods though 😉
“Cupcakes” In The Garden
AZ Plant LadyDo you like cupcakes?
Do you prefer a plain cupcake with no frosting?
Or maybe you like just a little bit of frosting….
Of course, many people like cupcakes with a thin layer of icing on the top….
I don’t know about you, but I prefer an entire piece of cake (which is much bigger then a cupcake) with lots of frosting all over it….
How about you?
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After I walked out into my back garden this weekend and seeing my Sage shrubs in full bloom, I just couldn’t resist another post about the unfortunate practice of formerly pruning flowering shrubs into ‘cupcake’ shapes.
Of course you can read more if you like:
Got Garlic?
Vegetable GardeningGarlic has to be one of my favorite vegetables. I use it in almost everything and I almost always use more then the recipe asks for.
I love growing my own garlic and it’s very easy to do.
My Favorite Vegetables
Fall is the best time to plant garlic and it starts with a visit to your local grocery store.
Garlic is easily planted from cloves. Take the whole heads of garlic that you have purchased at your grocery store and separate out the individual cloves.
Chose a location in your vegetable garden that receives at least 6 hours of sunlight. If you do not have an existing vegetable garden, then amend your existing soil with compost and aged steer manure, mixed in well.
Space them approximately 6 inches apart.
Plant 2 inches deep, with the pointed side of each clove pointed upward and cover with soil.
Garlic like regular water, but do not let them become soggy.
They will soon send up green shoots. In cold climates, add a straw mulch over your garlic.
Freezing weather will cause the green shoots to turn brown, but they will grow back in spring.
Once the outer leaves begin to turn brown and droop, you can harvest your garlic.
Pull it up carefully and keep the green shoots attached. Remove any clumps of dirt, but do not clean the heads.
Put your newly harvested garlic in a warm, dry area out of sunlight to ‘cure’ for a few weeks. Then cut the shoots off.
Your garlic is now ready to cook with. Store your garlic out of sunlight. I keep mine in a bowl on a shelf in my laundry room.
So start growing your own garlic. You can spend the time they are growing selecting your favorite recipes that need garlic.
My Secret Vegetable Gardening Tool…
Vegetable GardeningI didn’t set out to find a ‘secret’ gardening tool for my vegetable garden. But, I often find myself finding other uses for tools that I often use for other things.
This ‘secret’ tool is one that I purchased to help me with my sewing, years ago. I have had it for over 10 years and keep it in my hall closet.
So what is this ‘secret’ tool?
It is my yardstick….
Gardening Tool
My yardstick, which I no longer use for sewing by the way, is the perfect tool for not only measuring, but it also creates small furrows for seedlings.
Gardening Tool
I am sure that the creator of the yardstick never imagined people using it for creating furrows, do you?
It also makes spacing very easy for planting vegetable seeds and cloves of garlic.
I must admit that I am not the only one that finds my yardstick useful….
Years ago, my daughter, Gracie, found out that my yardstick also made a great ‘walking’ stick when she was 2 years old.
Later, she shared the benefits of the yardstick with her new little brother, Kai, shortly after we adopted him….
This is Kai’s second day at home after we returned from China from adopting him. You can see that his feet are turned inwards. He had surgery later, which repaired his feet.
She didn’t feel like sharing her yardstick, but she gave Kai a wooden spoon to play with.
So do you have a yardstick?
What do you use yours for?
Game Night, Indoor Gardening, and Recommended Garden Products
September Monthly Garden Bouquet
AZ Plant LadyI hope you are all having a great week so far.
Mine is busy finishing up a landscape consult write-up, doctor’s appointment and on Friday, we will be having my father-in-law’s memorial service.
Although memorial services are sad events, the one thing that I do enjoy are the beautiful, floral arrangements. It never ceases to amaze me how flowers can brighten anyone’s day.
I was so happy to see the following September Bouquet in my inbox that just made my week brighter.
This beautiful bouquet is from my blogger-friend, Pam, who is the creator of the blog, Pam’s English Garden.
She grew up in England and now gardens on a farm in Pennsylvania.
I love the flower combinations that she used – Buddleia, Marigold, Zinnias and Roses.
Pam also made a very creative bouquet, using herbs from her garden.
I recognize Basil, Parsley, Mint and Echinacea in this bouquet along with Nasturtium for color.
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Would like your bouquet to be included for October’s Monthly Garden Bouquet?
Just send me a photo via email, or send me a comment with a link to your blog post.
I will provide a link to your blog and ask that you do the same.
*If you do not have a blog, then simply send me a picture of your bouquet, and I will be happy to feature it.
PLEASE SUBMIT YOUR MONTHLY BOUQUET PHOTO OR LINK TO ME BY THE 19TH OF EACH MONTH.
I hope that you are inspired to create bouquets from your own garden this month 🙂
Mondays in the Garden – Planting Vegetable Seed
CompostI just love Mondays….
But, I must admit that my love for Mondays is rather new. I didn’t always enjoy sitting in traffic, headed for my office in downtown Phoenix, where I worked as a landscape designer. (I did enjoy my beautiful office that overlooked the city from the 14th floor).
Fast forward to 5 years later, and I find Mondays refreshing. For one, the kids are back in school after a hectic weekend, trying to get their projects finished on time. I also love that Monday is a fresh start. I rarely have time to garden on the weekends, so Mondays is a wonderful time to step outside and see what is flowering, smell the subtle fragrance of my desert trees and most importantly – see what has developed in my vegetable garden.
Two weeks ago, I planted my fall vegetable garden – on a Monday. It all started with a visit to our local Home Depot, where I picked up bagged compost, aged steer manure, bone meal and blood meal.
Earlier, we had ripped out what was left of our summer vegetable garden, leaving only our basil and oregano plants behind. Since I had removed the shade cloth from the garden, I put in two plastic chairs to protect the basil and oregano from the sun.
We added a 3 inch layer of compost and 3 inches of aged steer manure. Then I sprinkled both blood and bone meal on top. We then lightly raked the layers together and then waited a week before planting our vegetable seeds.
Fall vegetable garden
We placed stepping stones through the middle so that we will have easy access to our vegetables.
I buy my seeds from different sources. I have Burpee, some from Botanical Interesta, but I usually buy mine at the local Big Box store.
We decided to plant cucumbers, carrots, green onions, spinach, leaf lettuce and cauliflower.
I let each of the kids pick out what kind of seed they wanted to plant.
Decisions, decisions….
Planting Vegetable Seed
Gracie loves carrots, so that is what she picked to plant.
My son, Kai, planted the green onions and my daughter, Ruthie, planted the lettuce.
I finished up planting the rest of the seeds, using my top secret vegetable garden tool.
I will share my special tool with you soon 🙂
Fall vegetable garden
I had planted the sweet corn a few weeks ago, since they need to be in the ground by the end of August for best results.
So, do you know what you will be doing today?
I will be stepping out in to my vegetable garden, seeing what seedlings have started to sprout.
Stay tuned for how to plant garlic and learn about my ‘secret’ gardening tool.
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I hope you all had a great weekend and are off to a good start for the week.
**THERE ARE 2 DAYS LEFT TO ENTER YOUR MONTHLY GARDEN BOUQUET FOR THE MONTH OF SEPTEMBER.**
Please email me a photo of your bouquet, or leave me a link to your blog post with you bouquet in the comments section of this post. I will then feature your bouquet and a link back to your blog.
I hope you decide to take the time to send me your bouquet. I do enjoy seeing the beautiful flowers from your garden 🙂
Time To Plant Vegetables Already?
Anticipation….
AZ Plant LadyI always anticipate the beginning of fall and the cooler temperatures that it brings.
I think this Hibiscus shrub is also enjoying the cooler temperatures and is beginning to flower again.
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Thank you all for all your support and kind comments since the death of my father-in-law.
They are much appreciated. Life is still a bit crazy as I try to catch up on things that didn’t get done while we spent 22 days at his bedside.
I don’t think I have ever created a blog post with a single photo, but I promise that I will get back to my regular blogging soon.
Thank you for hanging in there with me 🙂
Have a great weekend!
(I am going to my daughter’s baby shower tomorrow, which is going to be held at Double S Farms. I can hardly wait. I’ll share some of the fun we have with you next week.)
Death of a Saguaro
Cactus/SucculentsSaguaros can be affected by high winds and heavy rain just as trees are. During windy weather, I love to observe Saguaro Cactus swaying gently in the breeze. In the summertime in Arizona, we have a monsoon season. The word “monsoon” means “wind shift” or “season”. This shift in the wind brings warm, moist air from Mexico, which causes brief, intense storms. Heavy rain, lightning, and high winds are a common occurrence during this time. Sadly, this saguaro (above) did not survive the latest monsoon storm of that summer.
This large giant fell in a landscape area in the community where I worked as a horticulturist. This was one of my favorite saguaro cacti. There had been a few consecutive days of heavy rain and wind, which caused this beautiful saguaro to fall.
*To get an idea of how large this saguaro was, the man walking in front of it is over 6 ft. tall.
There were two other casualties besides the saguaro cactus itself. As many of you may know, some types of birds make their homes in saguaros. This particular saguaro was home to a Cactus Wren and her babies.
Shared Love for Gardening….
AZ Plant LadySome daughter-in-law’s don’t have much in common with their father-in-law.
In my case, when I married my husband 25 years ago, I wasn’t sure if I would have any shared interests with my father-in-law…..he was a dentist (I was deathly afraid of dentists), he ran 3 miles a day (I got a ‘stitch’ in my side if I tried running to the corner), he was very orderly and meticulous (I am neither of those things) and he was soft spoken (while I can be a bit loud).
I knew he loved me and I him, but sometimes conversation would lag because besides the kids and family, there wasn’t much else to talk about.
That is until I started to become interested in plants and landscaping. You see, my father-in-law always had well-designed landscapes filled with beautiful plants. As I decided to pursue a degree in Urban Horticulture, he was very supportive.
Urban Horticulture, Goodding’s Verbena (Glandularia gooddingi)
Even better, we now had lots to talk about. Our visits would often include visits into each others garden.
I would show him my newest plant acquisition and he would in turn, ask me questions about a few of his plant problems.
Red Yucca (Hesperaloe parviflora)
A few years later, he and my mother-in-law made the trip up to my newest job location, took me out to lunch and asked me to show them around the landscape areas I was in charge of.
Blackfoot Daisy (Melampodium leucanthum)
When he retired, he asked me to design the landscape for their new home. He had some ideas of what he wanted and then let me go at it.
Damianita (Chrysactinia mexicana)
I enjoyed working closely with him, in coming up with a design and the plants that he liked.
Purple Prickly Pear (Opuntia violaceae)
While I enjoyed visiting and seeing his landscape mature, I didn’t always agree with the way he like to prune his shrubs…
His style gardening was orderly and meticulous, like he was.
We would sometimes tease each other because our styles were vastly different.
‘Torch Glow’ Bougainvillea
But no matter our landscaping styles, we still enjoyed going out into the garden together.
Last October, my father-in-law was diagnosed with ALS (Lou Gehrig’s disease).
Phoenix Bird-of-Paradise (Caesalpinia pulcherrima ‘Phoenix’)
In a very short time, he was robbed of the ability to speak, swallow, eat and the use of his hands.
Now, unable to work in his garden himself, he had to rely on others.
I considered it a privilege to help him where I could.
‘Rio Bravo’ Sage (Leucophyllum langmaniae ‘Rio Bravo’)
He endured this horrible disease with dignity, a sense of humor and through his faith.
Mexican Fence Post (Pachycereus marginatus)
This past Saturday, after 2 weeks in hospice care, he passed away.
We were all blessed to be by his side as he took his last, labored breath.
One of the last things he wrote was,
“My race is almost over.”
**********************
I think it will be awhile before I can step into his garden without shedding tears.
I will miss sharing our love for plants together…..
Tour of Sustainable Southwestern Landscapes: Part 1
Does Your Saguaro Need A Diet?
Cactus/SucculentsI bet you didn’t know that Saguaro cacti can suffer from weight problems, did you?
Well in my travels through countless neighborhoods, I have seen my fair share of ‘fat’ saguaro cacti.
So, are ‘fat’ saguaro feasting upon too much fast food? I don’t think so….
Believe it or not, it isn’t totally their fault that they are fat. The homeowner usually bears some responsibility.
Weight problem
Here is a great example of a saguaro that needs to be put on a diet.
Seriously, it is quite fat.
Can you see why?
Well, all cacti are specially adapted to take advantage of any nearby water source.
When it rains, they quickly send out tiny roots that are very close to the surface. These roots absorb all the water they can and then dry up and die once the ground dries out.
In a landscape setting, the roots will grow towards the nearest water source and keep ‘drinking water’…..usually the water that is irrigating your other plants.
In the photo above, the saguaro is getting quite a bit of water for the citrus tree behind it.
Here is another saguaro that has a weight problem.
It isn’t full of fat…..just too much water.
I took this picture of a client’s saguaro that was planted amidst two shrubs that were being irrigated regularly. You can see that the ‘folds’ are almost non-existent.
Unfortunately, I see this quite often. To avoid having this happen to you, do not place any irrigated plants near your saguaro. (I am assuming that you do not water your saguaro).
How far away should irrigated plants be kept away from a saguaro?
Well, a saguaro’s roots extend out roughly the same distance as its height and sometimes twice as far. So, make sure to place your irrigated plants out at least that far.
So what do you do if you already have a ‘fat’ saguaro?
Well first off, remove any nearby, irrigated plants and plug up the irrigation emitters. Then substitute other succulent plants that will require very little water (below).
So, are you fortunate enough to have a saguaro in your landscape?
I wish I was….. 🙂
Death of a Saguaro